Bridgehaven Team

Tips for Pastors Counseling Abuse

This is a quick resource for helping those who may be in an abusive or toxic relationship. I wanted to provide a quick list of tips you can refer to as a pastor, Christian leader, or friend to help female victims who are in abusive relationships. If you’d like more...

The Holiday Blues

It’s inevitable for most people.  We break out of the routine and spend lots of time doing little more than anticipating and preparing for the biggest holiday in our culture.  Some of us get energized (and rightfully so.  It does celebrate the birth of Jesus and a...

Intensity vs. Intimacy and Pacing in Dating

In the book The Addictive Personality author Craig Nakken notes one feature of the addictive personality that compounds the difficulty in freeing oneself from addiction. He said that addicts typically make the mistake of confusing intensity with intimacy; that the...

A Confession By Any Other Name. . .

A Confession by Any Other Name “Having a ministry that is fueled by personal devotion has its roots in humble, heart-deep confession.” Sometimes we have to repent and confess until we believe it, or if I can say it this way, until our hearts feel it.  Our repentance...

Confronting Lies with God’s Truth

Part 5 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church 48.6%!  That is the number of singles living in the Raleigh Durham area.  Once our counseling center learned about this number, we knew we had to address the issue of singleness in our churches and in our...

Creating a Family Dynamic at Church

Part 4 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church Do you remember the song “We are Family” by Sister Sledge? Here is a portion of their lyrics to refresh your memory: We are family Get up everybody and sing   Everyone can see we’re together As we walk...

The Singles Experience

Part 3 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church Do you know how a single person experiences church in a couple’s culture? Have you asked them what their experience is like? Know Their Story The experience of singleness is highly variable and subjective....

Church’s View of Singleness

Part 2 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church As a single, what has your experience in church been like? Do you feel welcomed, neglected or something else? Throughout church history there has been error and extreme views from both sides of the...