Posts by bridgehaventeam

How to Honor Your Parents as a Young Adult

Posted by on Jan 31, 2018 in Laura McGee | 1 comment

In my counseling practice, I often see young adults who struggle in their relationship with their parents.  The majority of these clients are in college and in the transition period of leaving adolescence and entering adulthood. Relational struggles stem from the tension to “honor your parents” (whatever that means) while also voicing different thoughts and making independent decisions that may conflict with parents values or viewpoints.  Clients often ask me: So what does ”honor your parents” mean anyway?  What does it mean that I’m a young adult but they still treat me like a...

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Tips for Pastors Counseling Abuse

Posted by on Jan 13, 2018 in Omar King | 0 comments

This is a quick resource for helping those who may be in an abusive or toxic relationship. I wanted to provide a quick list of tips you can refer to as a pastor, Christian leader, or friend to help female victims who are in abusive relationships. If you’d like more information on this subject please check out these resources. Favorites are listed below and where you can find on Amazon. What Can/Should You Do? Make safety a priority for the abused spouse. We want to assess the level of danger and help create plan for her to leave. But proceed with caution because in many cases she is most...

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The Holiday Blues

Posted by on Dec 18, 2017 in Neale Davis | 0 comments

It’s inevitable for most people.  We break out of the routine and spend lots of time doing little more than anticipating and preparing for the biggest holiday in our culture.  Some of us get energized (and rightfully so.  It does celebrate the birth of Jesus and a fulfillment of a promise made so long ago!).  But some of us fall prey to sadness on multiple levels.  Perhaps this is your first Christmas without a loved one.  Perhaps it’s another Christmas without a spouse or a pregnancy.  Maybe you’re an empty nester and the silence of your house is the loudest part of your day. ...

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Intensity vs. Intimacy and Pacing in Dating

Posted by on Dec 17, 2017 in Omar King | 0 comments

In the book The Addictive Personality author Craig Nakken notes one feature of the addictive personality that compounds the difficulty in freeing oneself from addiction. He said that addicts typically make the mistake of confusing intensity with intimacy; that the intensity one experiences emotionally during the addictive process is wrongly perceived as intimacy or closeness.  To feel good or euphoric is comparable to feeling loved and accepted.  He goes on to give an apt illustration of how this same phenomena plays out with his teenage niece.  He talked about her being “in love” with...

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Sexual Harassment, Sowing and Reaping, and Christian Integrity

Posted by on Dec 6, 2017 in Omar King | 0 comments

As we have recently seen in the news and witnessed a firestorm on social media, much attention has been drawn to the longstanding issue in our country around sexual harassment, particularly sexual misconduct in the work place.  Women primarily but also men has suffered silently for years under the humiliation of being accosted and having sexual advancements made by employers and fellow co-workers.  More and more victims of harassment and violations of dignity have become publicized.  Well known actors, movie and film producers, corporate execs, television celebrities, government officials,...

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