[3 min. read—client resource]
Hello everyone,
Whether you’re new to counseling or have been on this journey for some time, I want to share some thoughts to help you approach counseling in a positive, growth-oriented way, grounded in both practical wisdom and spiritual insight. Counseling can seem daunting at first, but when viewed as a process of healing and growth, it becomes more approachable and meaningful. Remember, this is a journey of transformation that respects your unique path, and these suggestions are merely general guidelines—not a one-size-fits-all blueprint.
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When Is the Right Time to Start Counseling?
**Recognizing Your Inner Signals and Emotional Needs**
Many people seek counseling during moments when life feels overwhelming or out of alignment with their values or sense of purpose. Sometimes, despite trying various coping strategies, things don’t improve, and you might feel lost or disconnected. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, confused, or unable to manage your feelings on your own, counseling can provide a safe space to explore these experiences without judgment. Notice if you are having racing thoughts at night, feeling tension in your body, or exhaustion that doesn’t seem to get better.
**Why Faith-Based Counseling?**
Counseling offers a confidential, non-judgmental environment—an extension of the divine love and grace that sustains us, meant to mirror God’s love and the work of the Holy Spirit—where you can explore your struggles and work toward healing. It’s an act of faith in your capacity for growth and renewal. If you’re unsure whether counseling is right for you, consider it a form of self-care rooted in spiritual stewardship—an opportunity to nurture your soul.
Managing Expectations in Counseling
**Setting Realistic Goals**
It’s natural to have expectations when starting therapy. Be mindful of them and communicate openly with your counselor. Remember that growth and healing take time, and healing is rarely linear. Approach counseling with patience and trust, without rigid timelines, as much as possible.
**Setting Collaborative Goals**
A helpful tip is to set clear, achievable goals with your counselor. These goals serve as guiding vantage points to track progress over time. Remember, counseling is a partnership—your active participation is essential. Stay open to insights that may challenge your perspectives, trusting that growth often comes through gentle surrender and openness. Trust that your counselor aims to support your growth, not to judge or “tell you what to do”.
Practical and Spiritual Tools to Support Your Processing
**Effective and Mindful Note-Taking**
Taking notes during sessions can enhance our understanding and retention. Handwritten notes are often most effective, engaging your mind more fully. If writing isn’t your preference, recording audio reflections or prayers after sessions can be an excellent alternative. These methods help reinforce insights and remind you of homework or next steps. It’s important to keep your notes in a safe location, either locked on your phone, computer, or in a journal that you feel comfortable will not be looked at without your consent.
Prioritize Self-Care and Spiritual Nourishment
**Caring for Your Whole Self**
Counseling can be emotionally and spiritually intense. It’s vital to care for your body, mind, and spirit. On days you have a session, consider scheduling lighter activities afterward- perhaps a walk, some exercise, or quality time with your trusted community. Avoid overloading your schedule on those days to prevent feeling overwhelmed. You can also include community that you trust to pray over your counseling journey. Discuss with your counselor what that could look like, considering who to disclose to, how to share, and what might serve best in just the counseling space.
**Creating a Supportive Environment**
Allow yourself space to decompress and process what you’re going through. This could involve grounding techniques or reflection time after sessions to pray, meditate, or simply breathe deeply. Your counselor can help you identify practices that support your healing, manage stress, and work through difficult emotions.
Cultivating Open and Honest Communication
**Be Honest and Curious**
Open and honest communication with your counselor is vital. Ask questions, seek feedback, and express concerns. Reflect on your progress—what’s been helpful? What areas still feel challenging? Always remember, if after giving yourself time with your counselor, you feel it is not a good fit, it is best to discuss this. It’s vital to feel comfortable and trust in that space. It is the counselor’s professional job to navigate this with you! As sessions progress, trust deepens. Your counselor’s outside perspective can highlight growth that may not be immediately apparent to you. Embrace both positive feedback and constructive insights- they’re all part of your journey toward self-awareness and healing.
**A Caveat:**
Please remember that these guidelines are general and may not perfectly suit everyone’s circumstances. Counseling is a deeply personal process, and what works for one person may not work for another. It’s important to approach your healing journey with patience and humility.
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In closing, counseling is a powerful tool for growth and healing. Approaching it with openness, patience, and self-compassion can make all the difference. Remember, you are not alone in this process, and support is available every step of the way.
Olivia James
Clinical Director, LMFT