Counseling

The first step in counseling is for us to get to know you. Unless we know your history and background then counseling degenerates into clichés and platitudes. But we also know that you are looking for hope and direction as soon as possible.

Our intake forms are a vital part of bridging this tension. The time you spend completing these forms should do two things: (1) it should allow you to gather and focus your thoughts in preparation for your first appointment, and (2) it provides us with a survey of your history and current situation so we can efficiently yet effectively focus the counseling conversation on the current struggle.

For your convenience, our ministry has made our counselee paperwork available online. Once you have scheduled an appointment by calling our office (Brier Creek/Durham 919-321-2275 or Raleigh 919-825-1742), we ask that each person in counseling complete a copy of the Adult or Parent-Child Intake Forms below prior to your first appointment. You should allow at least 45 minutes to complete this information. Please bring the completed copy of these forms with you to your first appointment for your counselor to review prior to the session.

 

FIRST VISIT INSTRUCTIONS:

First Visit Instructions for Bridgehaven Brier Creek

ADULT INTAKE FORMS:

Briercreek/Durham BCA Adult Intake Form

PARENTMINOR(CHILD) INTAKE FORMS:

Briercreek/Durham BCA Parent-Minor Intake Form

 

Here is what you can expect from your counselor at Bridgehaven; as these are the requirement we vet when considering someone for a role as a pastoral counselor on our team.

  • A saving knowledge of Jesus Christ as personal Lord and Savior evidenced by a growing demonstration of the fruit of the Spirit.
  • Clear testimony of a call to ministry that is specific to Biblical Counseling to be practiced either in or alongside of the local church.
  • The character and skills listed by the apostle Paul when he outlined the requirements for an overseer in I Timothy 3:1-7.
  • A philosophy of counseling that is consistent with the counseling philosophy of Bridgehaven, as stated in Bridgehaven’s statement of faith (taken from the Biblical Counseling Coalition).
  • A minimum of a Masters Degree in a counseling-related field, preferably from a seminary, and evidence of a strong theological background.
  • Competence in a counseling context with individuals, families, children, and/or addictions.
  • Competence across the spectrum of relational, emotional, and traumatic issues.
  • Recognition of counseling experience and training limitations.
  • Professionalism and confidentiality in dealing with counselees, counseling staff, area churches, and community professionals.
  • A willingness and graciousness towards those who do not share your/our convictions regarding the theory and practice of Biblical Counseling.

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 What types of counseling issues does Bridgehaven address?

• Marriage: Communication, Restoration, and Enrichment

• Parenting & Family

• Pre-Marital

• Depression, Anxiety, Anger, Fear, Grief, & Other Emotional Struggles

• Eating Disorders

• Responding to Abuse & Trauma (i.e., Verbal, Physical, Sexual)

• Pornography and Other Life Dominating Habits

• Insecurity

• Codependency

• Identity Issues

• Same Sex Attraction

• Guilt & Assurance of Salvation

What are the qualifications of Bridgehaven counselors?

Bridgehaven counselors have formal training in both counseling and theology. All counselors have at least a master’s degree in counseling. Our counselors do not carry state licensure. We appreciate and respect the work of the state licensed counselor, but our desire to cooperate with local churches led to us to be on the ecclesiastical side of the separation of church and state.

The American Psychological Association (APA) prohibits counselors from biasing their counsel based upon religion (i.e., prayer, referencing Scripture, involving the local church, mentioning Christ, offering the gospel). PRINCIPLE E: RESPECT FOR PEOPLE’S RIGHTS AND DIGNITY: Psychologists accord appropriate respect to the fundamental rights, dignity, and worth of all people. They respect the rights of individuals to privacy, confidentiality, self-determination, and autonomy, mindful that legal and other obligations may lead to inconsistency and conflict with the exercise of these rights. Psychologists are aware of cultural, individual, and role differences, including those due to age, gender, race, ethnicity, national origin, religion, sexual orientation, disability, language, and socioeconomic status. Psychologists try to eliminate the effect on their work of biases based on those factors, and they do not knowingly participate in or condone unfair discriminatory practices.

We want to honor the state’s right to define the code of ethics for the counselors they sanction while also maintaining the freedom to counsel without “eliminating the effect” of a “Christian bias” upon our counseling and the freedom to work cooperatively with local churches.

How much does counseling cost?

Bridgehaven is able to operate because of your financial donations. The expenses of Bridgehaven are not underwritten by an individual, church, or corporation. Therefore, it is through the donations of our counselees that the operating expenses of Bridgehaven are met. The comparable-market-value for counseling in the Raleigh-Durham area ranges from $75.00 to $125.00 per 50-minute session. Your responsibility is to pray about the amount God would have you donate for the counseling you receive and be faithful to God in your giving.

Donations should be in accord with what a man or woman has, not according to what he or she does not have. Therefore, no one will be refused counseling because of the amount of his or her donation. We have made intentional efforts to keep our operating expenses extremely low. However, there are some expenses that are unavoidable. We have closely examined our budget and determined that that an average donation of $75.00 helps cover these expenses.

Our financial policy is predicated upon these passages, which we could encourage you to consider.

“Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” II Corinthians 9:7

“Anyone who receives instruction in the word must share all good things with his instructor.” Galatians 6:6

Does Bridgehaven qualify for insurance payment?

Bridgehaven does not qualify for insurance. This is an implication of our choice to operate as pastoral counselors rather than state-licensed counselors.

What is “biblical counseling”?

By biblical counseling we mean that your counselor is a Christian with special training and experience in applying the truths of the Bible to life. We believe that the Bible speaks to all of life and to all of its problems, but sometimes it takes careful thought and prayerful wisdom to know how to make those connections. We don’t believe that the Bible is simply a how-to book or a recipe book for happiness. We believe that the Bible ultimately points us to a person and a relationship – Jesus Christ as our Savior and Redeemer. We believe that real change comes when people learn to see themselves and their problems in the context of a living, vital relationship with Christ. This does not mean that you must be a Christian to profit from our counseling, although we believe that deep and lasting change is brought about only by God himself. However, the Bible is never brought to bear in an artificial or heavy-handed way.

How does Bridgehaven work with local churches?

We believe that the church is God’s chosen context for change. We consider all of our counseling to be an extension of the ministry of the local church and a way of serving and promoting its ministry. In a sense, our counselors serve as “temporary staff” to the churches that refer their people to us for help. In that spirit, we seek to partner with the church in any way that will facilitate and sustain the desired changes in a counselee’s life. Most often this will mean counseling in a way that highlights the consistency of what is being learned in counseling with what is being taught at their church and encouraging more authentic relationships within the counselee’s church. When appropriate, it may also mean keeping a pastor, small group leader or other shepherd informed about the counseling process or even (with the counselee’s permission) inviting them to be part of the counseling sessions. Having said this, Bridgehaven is very sensitive to the issue of confidentiality. The Bible repeatedly warns against gossip and indicates that trustworthy people keep confidences. To release counseling information without a counselee’s consent would violate biblical standards as well as commonly accepted codes of counseling ethics. However, situations in which a counselee or another person is in imminent danger of physical harm may require reporting information to the appropriate legal authorities. Bridgehaven also seeks to equip churches with excellent counseling ministries that can be conducted within the church. These are video based curriculums that launch subject-based recovery groups called Freedom Groups and a marital / pre-marital mentoring program. In each case these ministries are designed to strengthen and feed into the small group (or comparable discipleship group) ministry of the local church. These resources can be found on our video page. Churches can contract with Bridgehaven counselors to resource the lay leaders of these ministries.

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Get to know our

Raleigh Counseling Staff

 

Keith Clement, M.Ed.

Executive Director

Keith graduated from The University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill and received his graduate counseling training at Georgia State University and the Psychological Studies Institute in Atlanta, GA, The Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation, Philadelphia, PA., and the Eastern Group Psychotherapy Society, New York, NY. Keith served in counseling ministries in Atlanta and was a founding counselor of Redeemer Counseling Services in New York before returning to his native state of North Carolina and joining the Bridgehaven team. Keith’s passion is to see people set free and transformed by the renewing of their minds through the gospel of grace and the power of God’s love. He enjoys helping people discover the good God is working in all of life’s problems and circumstances. Areas of particular interest include self-image and identity issues, issues specific to men and masculinity, relational conflicts, problems with intimacy, single’s issues, and depression and anxiety. Keith is committed to a wholistic view of mental health that address the mind, body, and spirit, incorporating the truths of Scripture, methods of counseling, and referral to medical specialists as needed.

Other than counseling, Keith has served as a Deacon in his church, was on staff with Campus Crusade for Christ (CRU), did discipling ministry with World Harvest Missions, and has been involved in mission work in Mexico, Ireland, and Rwanda. When not counseling, Keith enjoys working on his farm in Granville County, NC and hosting retreats and other events on his farm. He loves to travel, read, and garden.

For counseling inquiries: kclement@bridgehavencounseling.org

 

Dottie Hilliard, M.A.

Pastoral Counselor

Dottie grew up in Raleigh and is a graduate of North Carolina State University with a Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work. She married and had two daughters whom she homeschooled for eight years. She was employed as a substitute teacher for four years until her daughters graduated from high school. After becoming an empty nester, Dottie studied at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary where she received her Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling. She served as a facilitator for a support group of women whose husbands had been unfaithful. After a year in that role, Dottie became part of the Graduate Counseling program at The Summit Church where she served three years. She has experience in areas of marriage and divorce issues, anxiety and depression, unhealthy eating struggles, and grief. Dottie and her husband Doug enjoy serving at the Summit Cary campus together and spending time with their two daughters and sons-in law.

For counseling inquiries: dhilliard@bridgehavencounseling.org

 

Laura McGee, M.A.C.C.

Pastoral Counselor

Laura, a native of Austin Texas, graduated from Wake Forest University with a BA in Politics and a minor in Religion.  After graduation, she moved to the Washington DC area to pursue a career in politics.  While in DC, she volunteered with Campus Crusade for Christ discipling and mentoring college women.   Her passion  for discipleship led to her to join staff for three years.  Laura’s love for her family though led her back to North Carolina to become a full-time caregiver to her Mom who had developed a long term progressive illness. After her death, Laura moved to Raleigh in 2011 to resume a career in politics. Yet the Lord had other plans and in 2015 Laura was accepted into Reformed Theological Seminary (Charlotte, NC) Master’s of Counseling program and graduated in May 2017. Laura is a dedicated Dallas Cowboys fan, loves movies, her dog Bailey, and being with friends and family.   Laura is passionate about helping people who are hurting find hope and confidence in the Lord’s presence and love for them while they struggle with difficult circumstances. She specializes in anxiety and depression, life transitions, grief, caregiving,workplace difficulties and single’s issues.

For counseling inquiries: lmcgee@bridgehavencounseling.org

Get to know our

Brier Creek Counseling Staff

 

Neale Davis, MA.

Executive Director

Neale, a graduate of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, holds a Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling. Neale served with Campus Crusade for Christ 28 years before coming to Bridgehaven. He loves people and helping them walk through their difficulties. His goal is to help each person that comes through the doors of Bridgehaven to think biblically about their situation. He specializes in marriage, pre-marriage, men’s issues, depression, same sex attraction, parenting, addictions, stress and counseling for pastors. He is from North Carolina and is married to an amazing woman named Bonnie. They have three older children and live in Cary.

 

Omar King, M.Div.

Pastoral Counselor

Omar is a native of Queens, NY and relocated to Raleigh, NC as a teenager where his home has been since. In 1999 he received his Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology with a minor in Biology from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte and his Master’s of Divinity with Biblical Counseling degree from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, in Wake Forest NC. In 2001, he received a Level 1 Certification as a Clinical Pastoral Educator through Duke University and Rex Health Care. Omar served as a Special Programs teacher at Mary Phillips Alternative High School in Southeast Raleigh for 3 years and 6 years as full-time certified personal fitness trainer at O2 Fitness Club in North Raleigh. He has a growing interest and passion in areas of marriage, pre-marriage, dating, depression, anger, anxiety, addiction, men’s issues, and identity and security. He is a health and fitness aficionado. Omar and his wife LaToya of 6 years live in Wake Forest, NC.

 

Dottie Hilliard, M.A.

Pastoral Counselor

Dottie grew up in Raleigh and is a graduate of North Carolina State University with a Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work. She married and had two daughters whom she homeschooled for eight years. She was employed as a substitute teacher for four years until her daughters graduated from high school. After becoming an empty nester, Dottie studied at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary where she received her Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling. She served as a facilitator for a support group of women whose husbands had been unfaithful. After a year in that role, Dottie became part of the Graduate Counseling program at The Summit Church where she served three years. She has experience in areas of marriage and divorce issues, anxiety and depression, unhealthy eating struggles, and grief. Dottie and her husband Doug enjoy serving at the Summit Cary campus together and spending time with their two daughters and sons-in law.

 

Lauren Turner, M.A.

Pastoral Counselor

Lauren Turner, a native of southern California, graduated from Biola University in 2006 and worked in Residence Life for 6 years before moving to Durham in 2011. She received a Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary in Wake Forest. Lauren is passionate about caring for people well while connecting them to biblical truth in the counseling setting. She specializes in marriage, pre-marriage, identity, anxiety, anger, stress and contentment-related issues. She enjoys working in college ministry alongside her husband and raising their 2 young children. In her free time she loves reading, writing, music, travel and sports.

 

Jessica Cobb, M.A. (c)

Pastoral Counselor

Jessica Cobb is a born and raised Georgia girl. A bulldog fan to the core, Jessica attended the University of Georgia. She lived in North Africa as a missionary, which is where she met her husband. She graduated from the University of Georgia with a Bachelor of Science degree in Human Development and Family Science. When Jessica and her husband moved to Raleigh, she served in a psychiatry and counseling office for two years as the office manager. Jessica is in the process of completing her M.A. in Biblical Counseling at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. Jessica served in Summit’s Graduate Counseling program for two years. She has a heart for missionaries as they come off the field and are in need of care and community. Her passions for counseling are premarital, marriage counseling, women’s issues, identity, family issues, and depression. Additionally, she is Prepare-Enrich certified. Jessica and her husband live in Cary raising their young daughter. She loves baking, sports, reading, and being a wife and mama.