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The Call Of Jesus

Posted by on Apr 20, 2018 in Keith Clement | 0 comments

One of the ways I enjoy getting to know my Christian counseling colleagues is to hear from them how they received their call to serve Christ as a counselor. I equally enjoy answering that question when asked by others. We may refer to any work or vocation as a calling, but a vocation or service in ministry entered into through God’s leading is always understood to be a calling. As Christians, we all have a calling, but a call to Christian counseling ministry is a very unique calling that involves specialized education and training. As I...

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Trusting God in the Decision to Care for a Loved One

Posted by on Apr 9, 2018 in Laura McGee, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Approximately 34.2 million Americans have provided unpaid care to an adult aged 50 or older in the past 12 months. The majority of caregivers are female (60 percent). Most caregivers are taking care of one person (82 percent) and providing care for a relative (85 percent)—most often a parent or parent-in-law (49 percent), according to the AARP and the National Alliance for Caregivers. These statistics reveal that at some point in our lives, most of us will be faced with the decision to care for a loved one—sometimes sooner than we expect....

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Pastoral Ministry and Psychotropic Medications

Posted by on Mar 26, 2018 in Brad Hambrick | 0 comments

Consider this tension: Pastors are not medical professionals and, therefore, should not give medical advice. This seems clear and straight-forward, BUT Pastoral silence on the issue psychotropic medications reinforces the idea they are bad for Christians to take. This begs the question, “Is there a way for pastors to speak responsibly about psychotropic medications, in a way that is not giving medical advice, but in a way that provides church members with a sense of moral freedom to wisely assess whether medication may be a good fit for...

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How to Honor Your Parents as a Young Adult

Posted by on Jan 31, 2018 in Laura McGee | 1 comment

In my counseling practice, I often see young adults who struggle in their relationship with their parents.  The majority of these clients are in college and in the transition period of leaving adolescence and entering adulthood. Relational struggles stem from the tension to “honor your parents” (whatever that means) while also voicing different thoughts and making independent decisions that may conflict with parents values or viewpoints.  Clients often ask me: So what does ”honor your parents” mean anyway?  What does it mean that...

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Tips for Pastors Counseling Abuse

Posted by on Jan 13, 2018 in Omar King | 0 comments

This is a quick resource for helping those who may be in an abusive or toxic relationship. I wanted to provide a quick list of tips you can refer to as a pastor, Christian leader, or friend to help female victims who are in abusive relationships. If you’d like more information on this subject please check out these resources. Favorites are listed below and where you can find on Amazon. What Can/Should You Do? Make safety a priority for the abused spouse. We want to assess the level of danger and help create plan for her to leave. But...

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The Holiday Blues

Posted by on Dec 18, 2017 in Neale Davis | 0 comments

It’s inevitable for most people.  We break out of the routine and spend lots of time doing little more than anticipating and preparing for the biggest holiday in our culture.  Some of us get energized (and rightfully so.  It does celebrate the birth of Jesus and a fulfillment of a promise made so long ago!).  But some of us fall prey to sadness on multiple levels.  Perhaps this is your first Christmas without a loved one.  Perhaps it’s another Christmas without a spouse or a pregnancy.  Maybe you’re an empty nester and the silence...

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Intensity vs. Intimacy and Pacing in Dating

Posted by on Dec 17, 2017 in Omar King | 0 comments

In the book The Addictive Personality author Craig Nakken notes one feature of the addictive personality that compounds the difficulty in freeing oneself from addiction. He said that addicts typically make the mistake of confusing intensity with intimacy; that the intensity one experiences emotionally during the addictive process is wrongly perceived as intimacy or closeness.  To feel good or euphoric is comparable to feeling loved and accepted.  He goes on to give an apt illustration of how this same phenomena plays out with his teenage...

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Sexual Harassment, Sowing and Reaping, and Christian Integrity

Posted by on Dec 6, 2017 in Omar King | 0 comments

As we have recently seen in the news and witnessed a firestorm on social media, much attention has been drawn to the longstanding issue in our country around sexual harassment, particularly sexual misconduct in the work place.  Women primarily but also men has suffered silently for years under the humiliation of being accosted and having sexual advancements made by employers and fellow co-workers.  More and more victims of harassment and violations of dignity have become publicized.  Well known actors, movie and film producers, corporate...

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A Confession By Any Other Name. . .

Posted by on Nov 10, 2017 in Omar King | 0 comments

A Confession by Any Other Name “Having a ministry that is fueled by personal devotion has its roots in humble, heart-deep confession.” Sometimes we have to repent and confess until we believe it, or if I can say it this way, until our hearts feel it.  Our repentance is not genuine unless (1) we believe we need to change and (2) we really want to change.  There are times we can mentally assent to what we know is wrong in our hearts.  We nod to the truth but don’t have the desire to make it a reality in our lives. I’ve seen this truth...

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Confronting Lies with God’s Truth

Posted by on Nov 7, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Part 5 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church 48.6%!  That is the number of singles living in the Raleigh Durham area.  Once our counseling center learned about this number, we knew we had to address the issue of singleness in our churches and in our community.  We created this blog post to help both the church and singles understand each other better.  We end this blog series with an exhortation to reject the lies about singleness and replace them with the truth that will set us free. Lies We Believe About Singleness Our...

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Creating a Family Dynamic at Church

Posted by on Oct 31, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Part 4 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church Do you remember the song “We are Family” by Sister Sledge? Here is a portion of their lyrics to refresh your memory: We are family Get up everybody and sing   Everyone can see we’re together As we walk on by And, and we fly just like birds of a feather I won’t tell no lie All, all of the people around us they say Can they be that close Just let me state for the record We’re giving love in a family dose   We are family (Yeah, yeah, yeah, ah) What would it look...

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The Singles Experience

Posted by on Oct 26, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Part 3 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church Do you know how a single person experiences church in a couple’s culture? Have you asked them what their experience is like? Know Their Story The experience of singleness is highly variable and subjective. Being single in your 20s is a different experience from being single at 30, 40, 50 or even 70 and beyond. Being single can be a different experience for men and women. There are many variables to how one experiences singleness based on culture, family and social pressures,...

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Church’s View of Singleness

Posted by on Oct 10, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Part 2 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church As a single, what has your experience in church been like? Do you feel welcomed, neglected or something else? Throughout church history there has been error and extreme views from both sides of the marriage/singleness issue that has influenced the church’s attitude about singleness. The Hebrew Rabbinic Talmud states, “The man who is not married at 20 is living in sin.” On the other side, church ascetics have lifted singleness up as a holier call or higher station in life than...

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Scripture’s View of Singleness

Posted by on Oct 3, 2017 in Laura McGee | 0 comments

Scripture’s View of Singleness Part 1 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church 48.6%.  That’s the number of singles currently living in the Triangle, according to the US Census Bureau. Does that surprise you? Shock you? Make you shrug your shoulders? This means that the “single-married divide” in RDU is surprisingly small.  Yet our churches are dominated by married couples and singles too often feel relegated to the sidelines.  Why is that? This question prompted our counseling center, Bridgehaven Counseling...

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Getting to Know the Bridgehaven Staff

Posted by on Apr 20, 2017 in Uncategorized | 1 comment

Dr. Neale Davis, Executive Director/Durham Office Dr. Davis enjoys and appreciates the trust people express when sharing their stories. He has been counseling formally since the Bridgehaven office opened, but has been involved in counseling most of his life. He graduated from the University of Georgia in 1982 before working in Atlanta until his wife also graduated from UGA. They both served with Cru (formerly Campus Crusade for Christ) after getting married. Dr. Davis served with Cru for 28 years before opening up the Bridgehaven Durham...

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