Posts by bridgehaventeam

The Holiday Blues

Posted by on Dec 18, 2017 in Neale Davis | 0 comments

It’s inevitable for most people.  We break out of the routine and spend lots of time doing little more than anticipating and preparing for the biggest holiday in our culture.  Some of us get energized (and rightfully so.  It does celebrate the birth of Jesus and a fulfillment of a promise made so long ago!).  But some of us fall prey to sadness on multiple levels.  Perhaps this is your first Christmas without a loved one.  Perhaps it’s another Christmas without a spouse or a pregnancy.  Maybe you’re an empty nester and the silence of your house is the loudest part of your day. ...

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Intensity vs. Intimacy and Pacing in Dating

Posted by on Dec 17, 2017 in Omar King | 0 comments

In the book The Addictive Personality author Craig Nakken notes one feature of the addictive personality that compounds the difficulty in freeing oneself from addiction. He said that addicts typically make the mistake of confusing intensity with intimacy; that the intensity one experiences emotionally during the addictive process is wrongly perceived as intimacy or closeness.  To feel good or euphoric is comparable to feeling loved and accepted.  He goes on to give an apt illustration of how this same phenomena plays out with his teenage niece.  He talked about her being “in love” with...

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Sexual Harassment, Sowing and Reaping, and Christian Integrity

Posted by on Dec 6, 2017 in Omar King | 0 comments

As we have recently seen in the news and witnessed a firestorm on social media, much attention has been drawn to the longstanding issue in our country around sexual harassment, particularly sexual misconduct in the work place.  Women primarily but also men has suffered silently for years under the humiliation of being accosted and having sexual advancements made by employers and fellow co-workers.  More and more victims of harassment and violations of dignity have become publicized.  Well known actors, movie and film producers, corporate execs, television celebrities, government officials,...

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A Confession By Any Other Name. . .

Posted by on Nov 10, 2017 in Omar King | 0 comments

A Confession by Any Other Name “Having a ministry that is fueled by personal devotion has its roots in humble, heart-deep confession.” Sometimes we have to repent and confess until we believe it, or if I can say it this way, until our hearts feel it.  Our repentance is not genuine unless (1) we believe we need to change and (2) we really want to change.  There are times we can mentally assent to what we know is wrong in our hearts.  We nod to the truth but don’t have the desire to make it a reality in our lives. I’ve seen this truth played out in my life and was encouraged when I...

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Confronting Lies with God’s Truth

Posted by on Nov 7, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Part 5 of V on Singles Ministry in a Couple’s Culture Church 48.6%!  That is the number of singles living in the Raleigh Durham area.  Once our counseling center learned about this number, we knew we had to address the issue of singleness in our churches and in our community.  We created this blog post to help both the church and singles understand each other better.  We end this blog series with an exhortation to reject the lies about singleness and replace them with the truth that will set us free. Lies We Believe About Singleness Our flesh is prone to make idols of many things, and...

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