Posts made in October, 2012

It’s a Shame

Posted by on Oct 30, 2012 in Neale Davis | 0 comments

In his book,  “Shame Interrupted” Ed Welch asks the question, “What is shame?” “Shame is a deep sense that you are unacceptable because of something you did, something done to you, or something associated with you.  You feel exposed and humiliated. Or, to strengthen the language, You are disgraced because you acted less than human, you were treated as if you were less than human, or you were associated with something less than human, and there were witnesses.” It is powerful, too.  You can see it all around you and even experience it on a personal level.  Sometimes it’s...

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Overcoming Anger Video 3

Posted by on Oct 26, 2012 in Brad Hambrick | 0 comments

UNDERSTAND the origin, motive, and history of my sin. Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar presented by Brad Hambrick through a cooperation between Bridgehaven Counseling Associates and the EQUIP series at The Summit Church (Durham, NC). NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling. “I do not...

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Stop Sign Moments

Posted by on Oct 24, 2012 in Kathy King | 0 comments

    Have you ever been on the road to work, thinking you have plenty of time to get there, and construction traffic stops you? A man greets you with a bright colored vest and has firm grasp on a stop sign. There is one lane of traffic ahead, and your journey comes to a screeching halt. You got up this morning when your alarm went off. You poured yourself the final cup of coffee before walking out of the door and left for work on time. Now, the audacity of this construction worker has the “nerve” to bring your schedule to a screeching halt. What is your attitude like in this...

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Overcoming Anger Video 2

Posted by on Oct 19, 2012 in Brad Hambrick | 0 comments

STEP 2: ACKNOWLEDGE the breadth and impact of my sin. Below is a video from the “Overcoming Anger” seminar presented by Brad Hambrick through a cooperation between Bridgehaven Counseling Associates and the EQUIP series at The Summit Church (Durham, NC). NOTE: Many people have asked how they can get a copy of the seminar notebook referenced in this verbal presentation. Summit members can pick up a copy of the notebook in the church office. For those outside the Summit family, you can request a copy from Amy LaBarr (alabarr@summitrdu.com), office administrator over counseling. “I am...

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Best policy “Honesty”?

Posted by on Oct 15, 2012 in Omar King | 0 comments

A prevalent rebuttal to advice or a suggestion made in session when a counselee feels forced to make an adjustment in their attitude or behavior that is both hurting them, their spouse, or other relationship is “that’s not me” or “that’s not who I am.”  It is their way of expressing a resistance to something that seems unnatural or atypical for them.  In our culture since the late 1990’s a popular phrase used that conveys a determination to be genuine or true to oneself is “keeping it real.”  This is slang or euphemism for being honest. This is a very popular cultural...

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